Updated: Nov 6
Our measure of self-worth is an integral part of our mental health.
The value we place on ourselves can determine the quality of our relationships, careers, confidence, motivation, and overall happiness. And yet, self-worth is a product of our own minds. One key factor in influencing our self-esteem is our thoughts. Self-esteem is affected by self-criticism. Regarding yourself in a positive manner preserves and boosts your self-esteem.
Negative Self-Talk Affects Self-Worth
We all experience an internal voice, or “self-talk.” For some, it runs in the background of our thoughts without even noticing it. For others, the voice is inescapable and harsh, reminding us of our errors, shortcomings, mistakes, and inabilities. Paying attention to this inner critic can set off feelings of shame and worthlessness as well as the erosion of self-esteem. Sometimes it is hard to control these negative thoughts, yet our instincts tell us to do whatever it takes to silence the attack. For some, striving for perfection helps counterbalance the negativity. Others may use drugs and alcohol to numb the voice. However, this proves to be a temporary and dangerous solution.
We can best manage these attacks on our self-esteem by being aware of the inner critical voice instead of pushing it away. Pay attention to each negative thought and recognize how it is distorted or unrealistic. Then create new messages that can refute them and reinforce positive self-regard. An example of this would be, “Even though I am feeling unsure about who I am now, I am looking forward to learning something new about myself.” “I may not have gotten the job that I wanted, but I am not a failure.” The more control you have in challenging your negative thoughts, the less power they have over you. The result can be a more realistic perspective of your life as well as a more thoughtful and caring view of yourself.
Start With Self-Compassion
Improving self-worth starts with self-compassion. Self-compassion is the ability to be kind to yourself and accept yourself in spite of your flaws, mistakes and limitations. Surround yourself with people who encourage you instead of tear you down. Maintain a self-loving mindset. Challenge your negative thoughts. Are they true? We all have them, but remember thoughts are not facts. Participate in activities you are good at and enjoy. This can provide positive reinforcement to remind yourself that you are capable.
Believe In Yourself
The way you view yourself affects the kind of life you'll live. When you know who you are and you're pleased with the person you've become, you'll experience a sense of peace through life's inevitable ups and downs. You'll believe in yourself regardless of whether you've gained weight, gone through a divorce, or failed to get a promotion. Instead of listening to criticism and self-doubt, measure your self-worth by the person who you know yourself to be. Behave according to your values and create a life of meaning and purpose.
Begin Working With A Therapist in Marietta, GA
If you are going through a hard time and are in need of counseling, please consider reaching out to a qualified therapist. Our team of caring therapists would be honored to offer support with in-person and online services from our Marietta, GA-based practice. You can start your therapy journey by following these simple steps:
Reach out to talk to a Marietta therapist.
Have your first appointment at Remain Connected.
Learn how to care for yourself in a healthy way.
Other Services Offered at Remain Connected Counseling
Our team knows you may experience more self-worth issues. This is why we are happy to offer a variety of services including teen therapy, anxiety treatment, and EMDR therapy. In addition, we also offer life transitions therapy and depression counseling, and more all under a Christian counseling lens. By using online therapy, these services are available to anyone in Georgia. Learn more about our team of dedicated therapists and contact us for more information.